Ladies does this ever happen to you?

I'm a 41 year old lady with two children. I'm having female related problems I think. First, my stomach really bloats and feels hard like there's alot of pressure there and also in my lower pelvis. This happens with stress and exercise and after eating. My pms is wicked. Lol. I mean terrible mood swings and irritability and extreme fatigue. The cramping in my privates is horrible. It does this after lifting as well. The doctor thought it was a hernia, but they checked and it's not. I've been told IBS to fibroids to endometrosis. I do have a small gallstone. Can anyone help me? Has anyone experienced these symptons? Could this be early menopause? Thanks for your advice ladies.